Monday, March 9, 2015

Pre-Deployment

The lead up to deployment can go one of two ways...you stay positive and you enjoy the moments you have or you are depressed and carry it to the deployment. My family always picks the first option, especially with the last deployment and the current since my brother is in St. Louis.

So I would consider us "Deployment Professional"...we have struggles obviously because it sucks. No sugar coating here-deployments just plain suck. That is why we make sure to enjoy our moments, so here are somethings we do to make our time together GREAT.

1. We go to dinner...a lot. Nothing brings families together like a trip to a restaurant.
2. We plan care packages, my brother is experienced and knows what "fun" things to bring and have sent (his words not mine). We have spent many nights the last few weeks going through the Oriental Trading magazines to pick out the random junk he must have...like a blow-up Cactus Cooler. Because who doesn't need that.
3. We also avoid anything that will make us sad or that will cause us to talk about the "possibilities"...we don't worry about it until we have to.
4. We become hermits, we all stick together in the pre-deployment stage.
5. STAY POSITIVE. I can't stress it enough that you have to stay positive, being sad and depressed is okay but not all the time! It will make the whole thing worse.

As you and your family prepare for a deployment or if you are experiencing a deployment, remember you aren't alone! It seems like it will never end, but it will and there will be exciting homecomings, happy tears and a lot of smiles! Just stay strong!

What do y'all do to make it through the pre-deployment phase?

Thanks y'all!

Monday, February 23, 2015

Looking to get involved in a veterans/military support organization?

There are countless organization out there that help veterans and their families, I have a few that I specifically try to purchase from, share posts for or donate to just based on the work that they do for the military.

Here are some of my personal favorite organizations to support:

Operation Warriors
Boot Campaign
TAPS
Travis Manion Foundation
Lone Survivor Foundation
Navy Seal Foundation
All in All the Time Foundation
3 Minutes our
Chris Kyle Frog Foundation
31 Heroes Project
Fisher House

Here are a few events that you can take part in as well:

Joggin For Frogmen 5K
Crush it for JT 5K

There is no right or wrong when deciding what organizations to support, just make sure they are passionate about something you love as well!

What is your favorite organization to support?

Thanks y'all!



Wednesday, February 11, 2015

How to make it through a deployment...

Trust me when I say deployments never get easier...you just learn how to handle them better.

I am preparing for my brothers 4th deployment currently, so it had me think about how I got through the others. I guess you can say these are my "Words of Wisdom."

First, this is going to be a very emotional journey...more difficult than basic training and AIT. I'm not trying to scare you here, just simply prepare you. If you know me personally you know that I DO NOT let anyone see my emotions or my fears. But seriously deployments will bring out all kinds of emotions...you will cry, laugh, you will be mad and you will be scared. A huge lesson I learned was to never let me brother see it...your soldier needs to be able to focus and worrying about you will distract him.

Second, don't stop your life. A lot happened during my brothers first deployment and our lives stopped...we were miserable. We have learned over time that its okay to smile, to have a good time and to enjoy life. This is something that I have still been getting used to...and I have a simple way to think about this. Live a life that is worth somebody's sacrifice. Trust me your sibling wouldn't want you to stop what you are doing and sit idle for them to come home.

Third, DO NOT believe everything the news reports. Sometimes they rush to report the news so they can be number 1. If you need to know you will know. Also, no news is good news. My brothers first deployment was before Skype... we got a handful of emails (literally he had no internet) and a few phone calls. but not hearing anything also let me know he was okay.

Okay so some of my other little tidbits...
1. get a hobby, keep yourself occupied!
2.find a good support system...sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on or an ear to vent to.
3. stay positive...negativity is NOT helpful. It will honestly make it worse.

Just a little words of wisdom from one sibling to another, what is your advice for getting through deployments?

Thanks Y'all!

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Life can be CRAZY

Hey y'all so everyone knows life can get real crazy, real fast.

I've been kind of MIA from the blog for awhile...well since November really. So first off I GOT A JOB. I am officially considered an adult! I am so lucky to have the job I do, it is a great learning experience and I am getting so many amazing opportunities. I've been kind of busy adjusting to my new "normal" and getting Lola adjusted. Which if you know my dog it was not easy. Lola has extreme anxiety issues, but she is finally starting to get used to her schedule and is doing SO much better.

Unfortunately, it's not all happy. We just recently found out that my brother will be deploying for the 4th time to the Middle East in May. Things have been a little sad around the family but we will adjust and get through. It is definitely scary dealing with this pending deployment and seeing and hearing all of the craziness going on in the world right now.

I will be blogging during this deployment and the lead up, sharing my experiences and my tips for getting through this rough time.

To end on a fun note, Lola and I had Christmas pictures done. (Thank you to my friend Emily)





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